Someone told me something a few days ago that I haven’t been able to get out of my head. He said that in the past few years, he couldn’t think of a time when I had said I was truly happy or content in life.
To a degree, he is right. I’ve been through a lot and the nature of our friendship often means that I come to him when I’m hurting or need someone to talk to, and vice versa.
And in the moment of him saying this, I agreed with him, because all that came to the forefront of my mind were the instances of trauma and heartache. It was later, when I was still thinking about it, that I realized all the ways in which I do find joy, and all the little things or big things that make me happy…
Like waking up to a thunderstorm, when you don’t have anywhere to go
Going to a Halsey or Demi concert and singing at the top of my lungs, and dancing in the aisles, with no judgment at all because in those moments it is just you, the fans, and the artist connecting.
Being in any bookstore at all, or better yet a library, where I can pick up whatever my heart desires and take it home to devour
When I spent my 30th birthday with my best friend in the world and watched my mom defend me to a protestor on Bourbon St.
Night swimming at my second mom’s house, watching the trees light up with fireflies like glitter and talking to the moon
Going for a walk in the fall, when the weather is just right and the leaves are falling from trees into my hair
Waking up to the feeling of my cat curled up against me, fast asleep
Having the strength to be vulnerable, even when I know the door will be closed in my face
Driving with the windows down, singing to my favorite songs
And writing. I am whole when I am writing.
So, as I come off of a medication that might have had a tighter hold on some of my emotions than I might have originally believed, I find myself feeling happiness even more, and more so, wanting to share it with others. I hope I can do that, and never leave someone again with only the impression of sadness when there is so much to be grateful for.